This post was written by one of my absolute favourite person the face of the Earth, Shaha, she is an inspiration, an awesome blogger, a kind hearted volunteer, a marketing wiz and a great human being. Thanks love for writing this amazing post :)
Nawaf and I have a lot of things in common. We are both the same age (even though he's a bit younger by a couple months), we both love travelling, we both have a bucket list, we both co-founded DYM with Rish, we both love working with youth and we are both single. Yes, of all things, haha.
When you are in your twenties, there is so much in front of you. Education, looking for careers, adventure and there really isn't time to go looking for love. It's tough, really because we have so little time and yet so much to do. Balancing life, work, volunteer work, family and love is hard and there never really can be a balance. No one's good at life, it's all a learning experience, all you can really do is give everything your best and hope that in the end, everything you do makes you happy, makes you content.
I am probably not the best person to give you life advice because I don't have anything figured out. I haven't been on a date since last year and nowadays, I don't even meet anyone who is not a student (I teach part time at a college) or a co-worker and I don't really want to date either of those groups. But I can tell you one thing. Your twenties are not a time for you to be stuck in a relationship that is not working or not making you happy no matter how much you try to make it. Its a time to rediscover yourself, to focus on you and it won't be easy to do that if you have to keep changing yourself for someone else's approval.
Don't worry if you haven''t found anyone yet. Maybe the time hasn't come yet. Maybe it's in the grand scheme of the universe. I know, it can be worrying especially when all of your friends are getting into relationships, getting married or getting kids! I know, since when did that happen? It's crazy! Rushing into things is not good. Would you rather be married to the wrong person and it's too late than to be by yourself? Yes, it gets lonely and when you see happy couples everywhere and brides in their beautiful A-line dresses smiling perfectly and you keep thinking when is my happily after? Life isn't that simple. We are young and now's not the time to be starting a family, when we ourselves don't even have a clue as to what we are going to do in five years time.
Go out, have fun, travel around, find new people to click with, if you like someone ask them out, if you don't like someone, say no when you need to, if you are in a crap relationship, get out of it. There's no need to do things that doesn't make you happy. You can't stay just because it would hurt someone else, you have to first think of you. Maybe we won't find our prince charming or will be single all our life and maybe we'll later settle for something even worse which does scare me a lot. I want to tell you that hopefully that won't happen and you will find someone worthy of the love you have to offer. If you haven't found that person yet, don't rush with someone who isn't deserving of the brave and beautiful person that you are!
None of us really have figured out the rest of our life and right now is not the time to do that. Right now is the time to live for yourself, to sing your song and to find friends who will hum for you, to give love to your family who stood by you when the skies were gray. Right now is the time to live for yourself, to find your passion. Love will come your way and knock on your door when you least expect it; and when it does, open the door with all you have and maybe love might not be what you expect but you will know because love will make you feel whole and make you feel like you can conquer everything inside of you and fight the demons of doubt that you ever had. Like a simple brew of coffee, love will make your morning and remind you how beautiful you are!
Until then, live for you, live for that shining breathing fighting warrior that's waiting to blossom into something wonderful.
I love this piece. Thanks shaha for the good read :)
ReplyDeleteThank you. Glad you enjoyed it. :)
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